I said I would share a few Thanksgiving tables that stood out to me from around the web. All three of these are rather simple, but still elegant, fun, and inspiring. Because Thanksgiving should be just that.
I’m planning on setting a simple tablesetting this year for my family. One that feels special, but still makes my children feel welcome and the food be the star.
How are you setting your table? Over the top or simple (but still lovely, of course)?
Bringing living things into your home, makes your home feel alive. Whether that be florals or succulents, or any variety of house plants, bringing nature indoors gives your home a welcoming and finished look.
When designing a space, I try to always include something pretty from nature. Like most, I’m currently obsessed with succulents and the interest they add with their funky shapes, but that doesn’t stop me from adding all kinds of different plants to a space. It doesn’t hurt that many house plants have health benefits in creating a more pure home. I’ll take that any day.
What’s your favorite house plant? Do you try to have something from nature in every space?
I was on cloud nine. My seven-year-old son was actually letting me hold his hand…and we were skipping! What could have induced this amazing turn of events? Why the “Happiest Place on Earth,” of course.
We danced around Jiminy Cricket trash receptacles, jumped over concrete benches, and sang along to the never ending soundtrack of Disney themed music. How sad that it took three days into our family vacation to Disneyland for me to let loose enough to feel like a kid again.
I’ve given that experience a lot of thought. What was it that made me feel free and playful? Why is it so hard for me to feel that way every day? Why do I struggle to have fun with my children?
Somehow in the years between childhood and mommyhood, I lost not only my ability but also my desire to play. Sure, I love the idea of some R&R with my husband or a girls-night-out. But, what happened to the little girl who loved to sit down and play Barbies or make nana-soup in the backyard?
I am a “to-do” mommy. I have my list. Every morning I hit the ground and GO. There are meals to make, laundry to fold, emails to send, children to chauffeur, appointments to be made, and…well, you know the routine. I am motivated by my list. I feel an urgency to “GO, GO, GO!” It is difficult for me to slow down long enough to play, or even have fun.
For some mothers, the magic of playing still comes very naturally. But, I’m going to venture a guess that I’m not alone in my struggles with this. I’ve had to intentionally add the word “play” back into my vocabulary. So if you are like me and need to make yourself play with your children, schedule it in! I have found that when I take even fifteen minutes to stop what I’m doing and do what my child wants to do, it has worked wonders for my relationships with my children.
We are all familiar with the fire-safety phrase “Stop, drop, and roll.” For the safeguarding of our relationships with our children, I propose we all need to take the time to “Stop, sit, and play.”
The kind of play you do is completely dependant on what your children enjoy. I have boys who love to play LEGO’s. My designs are rarely as imaginative as theirs, but they always praise what I’ve made and love that I’m on the floor with them. Last week one of my sons came up with the idea of making letters out of LEGO’s, and wanted to spell his name. He got stuck on the lower-case “e” and asked me to help him. I was so grateful that, because I had built with him in the past, he knew I would make time to help him with his project.
It’s okay to guide the play to something you enjoy too. Everyone, including you, should take a turn in choosing the activity. Sometimes we build a blanket fort, kick a ball, or play a board game. Having all boys, we don’t ever play dolls or have tea parties, but sometimes I require them to help me bake cookies. Often we will snuggle up and read a book.
With my baby I have to set a time in my day where I stop whatever I’m doing, sit on the floor, and build with blocks or roll a ball. We climb stairs, look out the window, or sing songs. Sometimes my mind wanders to all the things I ‘should’ be doing, but I have learned that ‘should’ is all relative. What I should do is enjoy my children while I have them.
If you have teenagers, play a computer game or app together. I know, you may get that ‘look’ when you volunteer, but if you’re persistent, your teens will appreciate your efforts to spend time with them. Think about what they are interested in and then get creative. You might watch a sports event or music performance. You could plan a meal and make it together. Ask them what they would like to do.
Besides taking a few minutes a day to play with my children, our family has also implemented outings and date nights. If my children have completed all their jobs during the week, they earn our Friday after-school-outing. Sometimes we go to a museum or park; other times we’ll eat one-dollar cardboard pizza and watch a movie.
My husband and I swap each month which children we take individually on a date. Last month I took my seven-year-old out to shop for decorations for his birthday party. I was thrilled when he came up behind me later that day and gave me a big hug.
I still struggle with the “stop” part of “Stop, sit, and play.” It’s not easy for me to walk away from what I’m trying to accomplish in a day. Making action figures talk to each other isn’t on my “Top Ten Fun Things to Do” list; but getting a random hug is well worth the time investment. And surprisingly, more often than not, I end up enjoying myself and even find the carefree child within.
QUESTION: Are you allowing, or making, yourself take time to play with your children? If not, when can you schedule it in?
CHALLENGE: Pick a time of day when you can spend at least fifteen minutes doing something one-on-one with your child/children. If you aren’t already, plan at least one outing a month doing something fun as a family. This doesn’t have to cost money. It can be a trip to the park, library, or local recreation area. You can fly a kite or play a board game. (Watching T.V. doesn’t count.) Try to just do something where you are spending time having fun together.
Jenny Komenda, of Little Green Notebook, just posted this insanely gorgeous garland she made for the holiday (she even shares a tutorial so you can make one as well!). Her endless talent is always so impressive.
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In this 30-minute podcast, Power of Moms Founder, Saren, and her sister Saydi Shumway share their favorite Thanksgiving and Christmas memories and offer principles to guide you as you create unique traditions for your family for each holiday.
(Spoiler alert: The traditions that are beautiful to your family may not be picture-perfect – but it’s the FEELING that counts!)
9 Ways to Fill November with the Joy of Gratitude (Details on Thanksgiving tradition ideas)
Giving and Receiving (helping kids get excited about giving – from Saydi’s blog)
Saydi’s “Jerusalem Supper” (from Saydi’s blog)
Saren’s Christmas traditions (from Saren’s blog)
Family Systems Training (series of webinars and worksheets to help you refine your traditions and create discipline and work/money systems in your home)